The Big Chop is referred to as the process of cutting off all of your chemically processed hair, leaving only your natural hair. To chop or not to chop, that is the question.
It often comes with much contemplation, second guessing, hesitating and reluctance.In some cases, however, the decision is a no brainer and the process quite effortless.
Regardless of your state of mind prior to the
big chop, it is typically inevitable for challenges to present themselves
at some point or another after the Big Chop.
Immediately following your Big Chop you may feel
a rush of emotions. It is quite normal to experience mixed emotions, which can
range from a strong sense of liberation to that of regret. There is no doubt
that subsequent to taking this big step of getting rid of all of your
chemically processed hair, you will find yourself faced with the question "I
just big chopped, now what?"
Taking the right approach during this very delicate stage in your natural hair journey is critical and can in fact set the pattern for the kind of experience you will have throughout your natural hair journey. Approaches may vary from person to person or from hair type to hair type. There are, however, some fundamental principles that - if adopted - will help you to adjust to post big chop changes and uncertainties.
1. WEAR IT WITH PRIDE
Despite the length
of your hair after you Big Chop, it is of paramount importance that you get
comfortable with it to the point where you wear it with pride. Be confident
with your new look and wear it with boldness for the world to see. People can
spot a lack of confidence from a mile away and will be more likely to critique
your look if you yourself don't seem happy with it.
Be proud of who you are and the decision you have made. Your hair doesn't make you who you are. Beauty lies within and gets emitted from the inside out. Let that beauty shine through, even if you only have an inch of hair. It may take some getting used to, and at first you may question the decision, but in time you will get used to your new look.
Tap into your inner fierceness and embrace the
whole new world that awaits you. Just
hold your head high, put on a smile and wear your "new do" with pride.
2. DON'T GET OVERWHELMED
It is quite normal
for a natural newbie to be anxious to know all that there is to know and to
seek to experiment with all the natural hair products that are out there to be
tried. The journey ahead following your big chop is a very long one and it
should be taken in strides. An attempt to take in too much at the initial stage
can lead to frustration. You don't want information overload as that can cause
confusion. Take your time to gradually discover your new found "crown of glory."
Much of what you hear or read about natural hair may not generally be
applicable to you. Our hair has different personalities and they react
differently to different products and processes. Try to find YouTubers with
hair textures similar to yours or Google information relevant to your hair type.
Then, experiment with the most popular recommendations made.
There is always the
temptation among naturals, especially newbie naturals, to try every product on
the market made for natural hair. This is absolutely unnecessary and is, in
fact, not recommended. Becoming a product junkie is not advisable as it makes
it difficult to determine what works for your hair and what doesn't if you are
constantly switching between products.
Keep your regimen simple and basic and you will be sure to avoid getting overwhelmed by a life-changing journey that was initially intended to afford you a sense of freedom.
3. LEARN NATURAL HAIR VS. PROCESSED HAIR 101
One common mistake
that new naturals make is that they expect their natural hair to do the same
things as their processed hair. Natural hair is quite different from
chemically-processed hair. It is vital that you come to grips with these
differences as you may find yourself applying techniques to your natural hair
that are no longer relevant or suitable for this new hair texture. Basically,
your whole hair care regimen will be drastically different from that of your processed
hair regimen.
Your new hair texture will require different products, maintenance regimens and styling techniques.
Natural hair is curly, wavy or kinky in texture while relaxed hair is typically straight. While moisture is required in both cases, the methods used to introduce moisture may be very different. Natural hair, for example, loves water and applying water to it can be very beneficial. Relaxed hair, on the other hand, may face a styling dilemma if it is exposed to water. It is therefore important to know these differences and how they will affect the way you approach your hair.
4. STAY COMMITTED
The stage at which
you are most vulnerable is immediately following your Big Chop. Some persons
may even experience a little post-chop depression. People's reasons for going
natural may vary but be sure to remind yourself of the factors that influenced
your decision. Sometimes journaling will help you to stay focused if you begin
to get feelings of regret. Make a visual note of all the advantages of natural
hair and constantly remind yourself of them.
Recognize that
results will not be instant but they will be realized over time. Your hair growth
rate for example may seem slower than you anticipated but you have to remember
that natural hair has a tendency to shrink, hence the true length of your hair
may not be evident unless your hair is stretched out.
As with diets, workouts, studying or most other areas of life, commitment is what will get you over the hurdles and help you to achieve set goals. Stand by your decision and stay committed to the amazing journey that lies ahead.
5. TUNE OUT NEGATIVITY
The world is made up
of different people with different personalities, desires and opinions. My path
in life may be different from yours and your choices in life may bear no
likeness to mine. That is quite acceptable as long as one person's opinions are
not forced on another.
One of the challenges
that a new natural may face is that of overcoming negative comments. Not
everyone is going to like your new look and not everyone will support you in
your decision to go natural but you have to be willing and able to ignore all
the destructive criticisms that may come your way. You will hardly ever find
that everything that you do is pleasing to every single person in your life.
If natural hair makes you happy then take comfort in that and don't allow the negativity to get to you. Be courteous, put on a smile and state your position on the matter. They will respect you for the stand that you have taken and most times end up loving it or even joining you on the journey.
6. NETWORK WITH NATURALS
There has been a natural hair revolution burgeoning among women in the U.S. for the past few years. No longer is wearing natural hair an exception but it is becoming more and more a norm. It is quite likely that you know at least one other person who is natural but if that is not the case there are a whole host of natural hair communities online of which you can be a part.
Networking with other naturals immediately after you Big Chop will provide you with much needed support and encouragement that will help you along the way. Your natural hair journey doesn't have to be a lonely one. Finding natural hair bloggers or vloggers can prove very beneficial.
There
are some local natural hair meet up groups which allow women to come together
to celebrate their natural hair journey. These groups help to educate you on how
to take care of your hair and share product reviews which can be helpful in
your decision to try new products.
Find
networking sources that meet your needs. They will be sure to celebrate your
natural beauty and provide lots of inspiration.
So now that you have Big Chopped, don't lose heart, don't get discouraged, you will soon realize that it may be one of the most liberating decisions you ever made regarding your hair. Embrace it!!!!
Candie's Natural Hairnamix was birthed a few months after Jamaican native Rossette "Candie" Allen began her natural hair journey in May 2010. She gears this column toward naturals, transitioning naturals, aspiring naturals and the naturally curious, sharing experiences, expertise and experiments while celebrating emancipation from chemical slavery.