There is power in love. If you choose to abnormally use it, then it becomes abuse. If you are in a love affair and things have gone nuts, look back and you will realize where you have got it wrong. The good life doesn't come by accident; you have to work to seize it. And when you've got it, you have to work extra hard in order to maintain it. Manage your love affair like a business where the concept of profit and loss becomes a general rule. Solve your mathematics rightly and you will profit because there is power in love.

Lesson One: Desiring Love

The very first power is manifested before you even find your lover. At this stage in life, love makes you miss someone you don't know. You always have the urge that you need someone and yet that someone is only known by your hope. There is an instinct in people - including those who are single - that at one point there shall be a new world of companionship. Ask those who are married and they'll tell you they wanted a lover but they never knew it. When you find one, love that one alone. Betrayal is abuse; why cheating on someone you've waited for so long?

Lesson Two: Attending to Love

On the other hand, love makes you give your maximum attention to the one you have loved. You call, text, email your lover of yours more than anyone else. If there is any other person that you call or email more than your lover, then, it must be a workplace conversation, not a casual chat. This lover of yours deserves a call and not a page. No matter how long you stay in your relationship or marriage, don't ever quit this; it's the best way to spice up your love. When you quit, you leave your lover wondering who is now your favorite. Remain steadfast.

Lesson Three: Love Doesn't Hurt

Because of the power of the same thing called love, you are hurt when you hurt your lover. The longer you take to apologize, the longer the hurt haunts you. When you opt to remain silent forever, you only trade off your peace of mind. Even if the issue that might have brought a wrangle is concealed by the lapse of reasonable time, it leaves a mark in your heart until you confess it. Accept your errors, apologize and free yourself from the hurt. Failure to admit your own errors is a dangerous manifestation of abuse.

In addition to that, when you love someone wholeheartedly, you care so much and in turn; it breaks you when you are betrayed. Presumably, you wouldn't be bothered if it were someone you did not care about. If betrayal were a place, it would never be a good place to be. If it is food, surely it is bitter food. If it is medication, certainly it is not a drug that heals, but kills. If you are the one playing games with your lover, it will catch up with you. If it is your lover that cheated on you: take heart. You were with the wrong person. The only crucial area you should work on is your entry and responsibility in the love affair. Learn from where you are coming from, rummage around where you miscalculated and explore how you fell in the hands of that betrayer.

Lesson Four: Love is Strong

More to the point, the strength of love is evidenced by the attitude of forgiving even where this was naturally not applicable. Love covers a multitude of wrongs. When it's a random someone, you can shout at them. But when it's your lover, you are quiet. Of course there are people who shout at their loved ones like they are speaking to stranger. That often happens with individuals who are reacting out of anger. But when they cool down, regrets sneak in. They feel the guilt of dealing harshly with their loved ones. Always maintain the attitude of defending your love.

The other power of love is manifested when a love affair has been in existence for a while. When you are in love, you invest in it. You do everything possible to bail out your lover. Your heart goes where your treasure is. One major reason that makes people lose interest in their loved ones is their own lack of investment in their love. The heart is free to go anywhere because it has not been directed to one specific place.

The simple things that strengthened your love yesterday are the same that will maintain it today. No matter how long you might have been in a relationship, the same rules apply. Breaking them, the same consequences will apply, as well. Do not be tired of doing good. Abnormal use is abuse.